Hello world! Guess what we are talking about
this week atTMI Tuesday?
1. Good sex can be surprisingly difficult to find from single males on swinging websites.
2. Let’s talk about sex baby, let’s talk
about getting a sadly large number of swinging website single males familar with soap, bathing, basic manners/courtesies, social norms, intelligent level of conversation........and then, perhaps, only then, might we get on to considering our genitals getting anywhere near each other.
3. Swinging Website single males having reasonable looks, intelligence, being about 6' tall, dressing appropriately, having a full set of teeth, and not being a smoker is all about putting pleasure
back into sex.
4. Excessive use of pornography can
distort expectations of what sex in real life should or could be like. a. True b. False
Care to expand?
Yes, I do understand the argument for this, especially with young, inexperienced and impressionable minds as well as people who are just idiots of any age who convince themselves that because some porn titles indicate female delight at being tied up by the tits and rammed anally that all women are up for this and never mind being asked, are just wanting to be taken like this...........all the time. However, for me, I've always been in the amateur porn camp and seeing real people doing real things, so no airbrushed, sex for pay, fantasy nonesense for me. It's Gonzo style every time. In no particular order, just simply the first ones I found today, exhibits of this genre here, here, here, here, here, here, here................and here
5. Soaked panties boosts my sexual
performance. A man with a fithly mind boosts my sexual enjoyment.
Bonus: What is the
last way that you experienced sexual pleasure?
For those who follow my Sinful Sundays, you will have seen yesterday another pic from this series where YSL and I were anally fucking each other with a double ended glass dildo....you know, usual stuff like that.
1. What is femininity to you? Tell us in 50 words or less.
It is about celebrating my gender and the western societal
norms that accompany it such as dress, shoes, hair, make-up and desirability
2. How does femininity come into play in your sexual relationship?
I love to dress for the occasion and to see and feel
the desire that men have for me a well as it being more acceptable for fem/fem
play in the swinging community.
3. What does masculinity mean to you? Tell us in 50 words or less?
It is about having confidence, thinking in a logical
way and having the strength to be comfortable with non-orthodox ways of
4. Men, we often hear about women’s body image struggles–what are your
body image issues?
YSL – I’m sure that we all wish that something was
different about us and I think that it can fall in to two categories. Genetics,
where there is nothing that we can do about it e.g. height, hair loss, etc and
things that perhaps involve work or some form of fortitude, such as weight
loss, becoming fitter, etc. I am fairly comfortable in myself and wouldn’t say
that I have any body image issues however I am mindful of the benefits that
would accrue if I went to the gym on a more regular basis.
5. Men’s gender role conflict is a psychological state in which
restrictive definitions of masculinity limit men’s well-being and human
potential. Do you now or have you ever suffered from Men’s gender role
conflict? What are you doing to resolve this?
YSL - Ahhh yes, James O’Neil’s et al’s seminal work
from 1986, General-Role Conflict Scale: College men’s fear of femininity
published in the Sex Roles journal. Below is the schematic and definitions that
Jimmy took to base his work upon
never suffered from it so nothing to resolve. However, commenting upon the
Restrictive emotionality – I’m reasonably stable emotionally and usually absorb
things within feeling the need for expression
Homophobia – None at all
Control – I don’t feel the need to be in control, however I do express if I
think things are going in the wrong direction or a wrong approach is being
Restricted sexual/affectionate behaviour – With consent and with those who
invite it, I am not restricted at all
Obsession with achievement/success – Work means a lot to me as I find it
fulfilling as well as a way of earning income, however I don’t undertake it for
status or to demonstrate value
Health care problems – I don’t really have any, but as above, a bit more face
time at the gym wouldn’t hurt
Bonus: Does gender have any real
believe it does, but as with most things, there has been change over the years,
so not that long ago being female would stereotypically have been shorthand for
looking for a husband then being a housekeeper. I believe that women are equal
to men in skill and mental ability but perhaps not so much in physical ability.
works by rules and norms and I like the progression that we have seen in gender
equality over recent times. Sexually I am fortunate enough to live in a time
where the stud/slut argument is finally dying so I can enjoy and live out my
sexuality without shame, remorse, guilt or worrying about what others may think
been a bit rambling this answer, but overall, I like the increasing equality and
maintenance of the distinction between genders re appearance.
TMI Tuesdaytime. Answer these interesting questions adapted from Red
Lipstick Project’s Sexual IQ test.
1. You want to make love, but your partner says they’re too
annoyed and frustrated. B. It’s a bummer, but you understand they’ve had a long
day. C. You give your partner an awkwardly long hug and say you’re happy
to wait. It’s better when you’re both into it.
D. You get nervous and worried. Maybe your partner is cheating or doesn’t think
you’re attractive anymore. *For sex to be good and successful, all players, note I didn't say both ;-)have to be engaged, interested and enthusiastic, so why push something?? So, what would happen in this scenario? See answer 4 to this recent TMI post
2. Who is having better sex? You or your best friends?
I am, obviously. B. We don’t talk about our sex lives. Ever.
C. We all have our good times and bad times. We don’t usually compare.
D. My friends have all the good sex. I can’t keep up. *It's not a competition in my mind, it's simply what you enjoy for you. I don't feel shortchanged whatsoever, so I'm not comparing and wishing things were like 'what she has'.
3. How do you feel right after sex?
and ready to shower. A little gross. B. Satisfied and energized. Ready to take on the world. C. Calm and happy, falling asleep.
D. A bit let down and tired.
*I just love sex and being filled with cum. The more sex I have, the more that I want!! YSL is very familar with this as if we take this lovely friend shown here, here and here, after we have enjoyed five or six hours with her, I still want an hour or two with YSL afterwards. He has to keep up.........and he readily accepts the challenge every time :-)
4. Which is better? Being a man or woman?
have it so much easier
B. Women have it so much easier C. I’m having too much fun being me to worry about it. D. Is there really much of a difference? *Don't really need to add any context to this one
5. You and your partner had sex that wasn’t that good. You:
Don’t say anything. Everyone has an off day. B.
Complain or drop hints that things better improve.
C. Consider whether you should break up. Sex is the glue to a good
D. Discuss it immediately and see if there is anything you should be doing differently.
*A reluctant answer to ‘A’ provided
as the sex is always good :-)
6. What advice do you wish you had when you started having
Sex is a great thing–healthy and fun. B. A proper tour of the reproductive parts as errogenous zones and not from
a biology point of view. Bodies are really strange and getting to know them can
be awkward. C. Sex is a beautiful thing but be careful to protect
your body from STD’s and pregnancy or you won’t have as much fun. D. Enjoy sex while you can, because it gets worse as you get older.
Not really sure that any of these are advice I would have wished for early as
you pick these things up as you go along anyway. However, I do know that
certainly from my experience, ‘D’ is an outright lie!!!
will your sex life be like when you’re 70 years old?
can’t imagine having sex when I get wrinkly.
B. Probably a little sex here and there. C. Hopefully my years of knowledge and hard work in the
bedroom will pay off when I am having good sex in my 70’s.
* and ‘C’ for this question is the
truest and best answer of all of this week’s questions :-)
I look forward to the future without
fear and have anticipation of continually being sexually fulfilled and the
experiences becoming ever richer as I grow older